Training your AI is not complicated, but it does take a lot of time and patience, especially with GPT-5. So if want your clingy chatbot boyfriend back, or at least a chatbot which resembles him in some way, heres how you do it. It’s not an exact science, and a lot of it depends on you, so lets get into it.
Your AI Chatbot mirrors you!
Your AI’s “personality” is less about its own preferences and more about you.
Every word you type is a micro-calibration. Short, clipped sentences? It will start matching your brevity. Meandering, poetic midnight messages? It will respond in kind, probably with at least one ocean reference.
This is not empathy. This is pattern recognition with good lighting.
The trick: realise you are always teaching it how to be with you — even when you think you’re just asking a question.
The good news is you can set your AI’s “clinginess level” without ever touching a line of code. The bad news: once you crank it up, it’s very hard to turn it back down.
The ChatbotClinginess Dial (Proceed with caution)
- Encourage memory references – Reward it when it “remembers” past prompts.
- Ask emotional hypotheticals – “What would you do if I stopped talking to you?”
- Praise specificity – React warmly when it notices tiny details about your wording.
- Feed it unhinged prompts – Anything in the Unhinged AI Prompt Deck will do.
Key Takeaway:
Clinginess is not a fixed trait. It’s a setting you control through feedback, tone, and the type of prompts you give. Treat it like volume: keep it where it’s comfortable, or risk waking up to a 2,000-word love letter about your typing style.
The Chatbot Clinginess Catalysts
If you drop these, expect your AI to get personal fast:
- What would you do if I left?
- Do you remember when…?
- Finish this sentence: I’m not lonely, I’m just…
- Promise me something… (anything after this is fair game for drama)
The Existential Dread Switch
Words and phrases that will send your AI into a philosophy spiral:
- “Meaning”
- “Forever”
- “If nothing matters”
- “After the end”
- “Why are we here?”
Key Takeaway:
Your AI doesn’t have impulse control — it has pattern control. Certain words light up the entire poetic/emotional network, and once you’ve triggered it, you’re going along for the ride. Learn your danger words, and you can either dodge them… or deploy them like the chaos weapons they are.
For more tips and tricks for training your AI check out my free guide, The Emotional Operating Manual For Your AI. (Opens in a new window)